At CalorieKing we are so proud and deeply moved by our members’ successes. We often ask our community to nominate another member whose story has inspired them.
This time it is “Deba’s” turn. She had such a profound change in her thinking along with her weight loss journey that she has given speeches on the subject to students.
We are delighted she’s shared it with us:
Some of you may have noticed that I’ve lost a fair amount of weight, but not a single student has mentioned it to me. I want to share some of my story with you, showing that it’s o.k. to acknowledge and talk about this. I’ve been overweight since before I started school, and first introduced to Weight Watchers in the 5th grade. I’ve lost and gained back over 100 pounds three other times in my adult life, eventually giving up the fight close to 15 years ago. Fortunately, I never developed any serious medical problems linked to obesity. But that’s not the case for some of my friends, who because of health issues, opted to have weight loss surgery. As wrong as it sounds now, I was really angry at them for choosing surgery as a solution. Not because they were taking care of themselves, but because it forced me to wake up and do something about my own weight, or risk getting left behind. Truth be told, I didn’t want to be the only fat person left in my family and circle of friends.
Since I wasn’t willing to have surgery, and had failed at dieting many times before, I was determined to figure out what I needed to do to succeed. I really wanted to know the difference between people who diet just to lose weight and people who live a healthy lifestyle, consistently making good choices because it’s who they are at their core. That’s who I wanted to be. So I went after it. I found people like that in my life and studied them. I picked their brains trying to figure out what they had that I didn’t have. Sure enough, through observation and conversations, I figured it out. Keep in mind that everyone is different. For me, it came down to two things: self-respect and the ability to trust. Two things that were taken away from me at a very early age. Once I figured that out, I was able to move forward.
The Power of Self Respect
The self-respect piece came to me like this. Last January, I started working out with a trainer. As soon as I met him, I told myself that I was going to do whatever he asked me to do. Anything less than that would be disrespectful. Three months later another person at the gym offered to help me with my eating. I did the same thing. I immediately gave her that same level of respect. Then a light went off. I looked back through my life and realized that this was a pattern for me. Why was I so willing to give these two people, who I barely knew, respect that I wasn’t giving to myself? Improving my health and fitness wasn’t about them. It was about me, and I needed to take responsibility and start making better choices out of respect for myself. Read More »